Here’s Amy’s 10 rules for online dating (along with a bit of personal experience): 1. Keep your words positive, inspiring and optimistic. I’ve never been good at talking about myself.” If you’re not a good writer, figure out the keywords and points you need to make, then ask a friend to help you out. Photos should focus on your waist up, unless you have a great figure. It’s possible to be generic about what you like while still being specific enough to sound interesting. Unless that comedian is one of your deal-breakers, leave him or her off your profile. Perhaps you are an avid NRA member, are passionately Pro-Choice, or a strong advocate for medical marijuana—you may want to leave out things that someone could potentially interpret that information in a way that disadvantages you. If you’ve won a Pulitzer or climbed Mount Everest or for some reason own a jet, this is wonderful news—just don’t share it online. If someone instant messages you while you’re online, go ahead and IM back if you want.Be open about your hopes, dreams and passions and keep things that may be controversial to yourself (you can always reveal more later). Then it’s OK to include one or two full-body shots in your gallery. If you want to use humor, write whatever you’re planning to say down and show it to some friends or coworkers first. With your tone of voice and inflection, it may be hilarious—but out of your friend’s mouth it may fall flat or even be offensive. Odds are you may turn off more people than you attract. These are the types of details to work into a conversation on your first or second date. Be mindful while flirting online, since it’s easy to sound too aggressive too soon. When writing an email or text message, as a general rule only say things you’d feel comfortable and natural saying in person. Otherwise, wait 20 to 23 hours between e-mail contacts for the first few messages. Avoid sending any messages while most people are sleeping, even if you’re wide awake. Buy Webb’s book Data, A Love Story for the full download.It was something like this: I'm not that sure about any of it - except the woman part had something to do with her fearing physical harm - it could have been: kidnapped, raped, cut up into little pieces etc. It is possible I heard it during live standup and it doesn't exist on the web somewhere, but I have a feeling I saw it while watching TV. Gavin De Becker wrote it in "The Gift of Fear" (Bloomsbury, 2000): At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them." Thanks for the quick responses - I had thought I had heard it from Louie CK, but he or whoever may have been prefacing it by "It's like that old saying" or something. I definitely didn't hear it from Margaret Atwood - unless she has been doing standup.I found a reference using the two suggestions given as early as 1980 giving credit to Atwood link Louie did have a bit like this.Self-appointed spokesperson for hetero, male “chubby chasers” (his preferred term) and author of the blog Ask a Guy Who Likes Fat Chicks, Dan Weiss also weighed in on the monologue, taking to task for ignoring men who prefer fat women.He lamented in an article for The Concourse, “Vanessa would have far less trouble getting someone to hold her hand in real life, and while this was every bit the excellent, conversation-starting was perceptive enough to join the conversation.So naturally, she turned it into a data experiment and geeked out on spreadsheets.After laying out 72 key data points, creating multiple fake male profiles (you gotta check out the competition!
His bit was basically something like, "imagune if you were a dude and you had to go out with a gigantic bear. So it must have been either Beacon Theater od the Carnegie Hall performance unless i'm forgetting one in between the ones I mentioned.
“What is it about the basics of human happiness, feeling attractive, feeling loved, having guys chase after us, that’s just not in the cards for us? Listening to Vanessa, my heart leapt into my throat.
Vanessa was simply asking to have a dialogue with Louie and hold him accountable for his beliefs and his behaviors in relation to her fatness.
His daughter was telling him a story about her day when his phone suddenly beeped at him, indicating he’d received a message.
At first, he didn’t think anything of it, but over time, he began to think about what she might actually be feeling when he chose a text message or an email over her story, even momentarily. So, rather than just hope that she’d get over it, Louis decided to let his daughter set a parental restriction password on his phone that only she would know.